How to Find a Therapist Who Can Really Help You

How to Find a Therapist Who Can Really Help You
by Health.com 4/22/08

Finding a therapist who can best help you starts with choosing the right person, but not necessarily the right therapy.

Bruce E. Wampold, PhD, a professor of counseling psychology at the University of Wisconsin–Madison, analyzed data from 6,000 patients seeing more than 500 therapists and found that all schools of talk therapy can work—if the therapist is competent and in sync with his or her patient. Watch this top psychiatrist explain why it’s important that you feel liked by your therapist, and why a growing number of experts are recommending a cognitive behavioral therapy approach for depression.

“It’s important that you agree on the purpose of therapy and how you will accomplish that,” says Keris Myrick, 46, of Pasadena, Calif., who has treatment-resistant depression and is a veteran of the mental health system. But finding the right mix of chemistry, experience, and area of expertise can be elusive.

Ask, “Have you been here?”
“I’m a little biased here, but I think you should go with someone has had to go through the process of therapy,” says Jayne Bloch, a psychoanalyst and member of the National Psychological Association for Psychoanalysis Institute in New York City. “You’re taking this journey to places unknown; it helps to go with someone who’s been there before.”

Some patients, like John Head, of Berkeley, Calif., luck out. “I chose a therapist the wrong way, based on who was closest to where I live. I didn’t ask any questions about methods, training, philosophy. But as it turns out, I got someone very good.”

Joseph, 55, had a different experience. Continue reading

Here we go…

We’re starting this blog today for a couple of reasons. The first of which is to help people understand the small things you can do to make a relationship great. The second reason is to generate traffic to our site and allow others to make use of some of the tools there. I’m a relationship specialist and along with my wife Marilyn, we have a counseling service called The Relationship Specialists. 

After working in the self development field for a combined 55 years we thought we might have something to say that could help people make their relationships a little easier. And a little happier. And a little more meaningful. So you see we’ve set big goals for ourselves. I hope you will stay tuned and also give us feedback on what we offer. Who knows? Your own contributions might end up in a book some day.

We will be using some examples from our own relationship, some from our friends and some from past clients. Due to confidentiality agreements, we will not be able to give any identifying details regarding past clients. Therefore most of the examples we use will just identify specific behaviors, reactions and emotions that come up within a relationship. We hope by proceeding this way you will be able to see some of the same behaviors, reactions and emotions within your own life and put our solutions to use in making your relationship a better one. That’s our hope anyway and we will begin as soon as Marilyn checks in.